Speaking & Partnerships

Move toward

what you desire, rather than

away from what you don’t.

Speaking & Partnerships

Inspired Action- definition: action inspired by the greater good of all humanity

For a long time I spoke about my life’s mission as being “to end rape culture”. There was always a knowing that something wasn’t quite right in the language I used to express it – it was stagnant, lacked the feeling of being on a journey or it being a process -but I couldn’t figure out how to say what I wanted to say. And what I knew in the depths of my soul and the heights of my consciousness was that I was put here to serve human rights. I was put here to change the way society treats, sees/doesn’t see, polices, talks about, believes/doesn’t believe, supports/doesn’t support survivors of sexual trauma, and other oppressed communities. I was put here to help individuals travel their healing path and to help HEAL the collective wound of sexual trauma and oppression in our World. So I used imperfect language to come as close as I could to stating my purpose.

Here’s the essential concept I was struggling with when I used this language:

“We can not solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them” – Albert Einstein

When there is so much pain, oppression and victimization; On top of so much misunderstanding about what “rape culture” is we can’t help but look for someone to blame in our quest for a solution to the problem; in the quest to cease all this incredible suffering. When we come from the place of “pushing away” from what we don’t want it is difficult – if not impossible – to create anything but more of what we don’t want (anxiety, pain, fear, oppression, more “sides” from which to yell at one another, staking our claims and protecting ourselves even more ferociously). I wanted to figure out the language of what we get to move toward.

“I was once asked why I don’t participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I’ll be there.” – Mother Theresa

Like my work with individuals in therapy and small groups in coaching practice I hold my activism, or inspired action, in a place of deep knowing that as a society we have a capacity for great health, love and wholeness. The answers to these painful questions already exist in our collective unconscious. We are whole and well and healed at the core and if we are quiet enough, bringing the focused energy of love, compassion and openness we will be able to hear the answers that heal our wounds.

Through my various healing practices and advocacy work, and my personal mindfulness-awareness practice I’ve come to a deeper understanding of what I mean when I say my mission in life is to “end rape culture”. Though I still don’t have perfect language I have the concept and energy of moving toward what we are embracing when we embrace a culture of consent. I have learned the importance of supportive, creative partnerships coming together with others and having the conversations that help create the collective mind-shift necessary to fully embrace and spread a culture of consent.